DAUGHTERS, by John Mayer (From the album Heavier Things, 2003)
The rumor about John Mayer’s song, “Daughters,” is that he begged his producer not to release it – he felt the song was career suicide. Instead, this powerful song about the effects of abuse won him Song of the Year at the 2005 Grammy Awards.
“Daughters” is a powerful treatise on the later-effects of abuse as he sings about a girl who he deeply loved, but was so deeply affected by the abuse of her father, she was unable to be in a serious relationship with him. The poignant lyrics give us all things to consider about the long-term affects of abuse and the understanding of such from the perspective of both the abused and those who love them later on.
“I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
But she’s just like a maze
Where all of the walls are continually changed
And I’ve done all I can
To stand on her steps with my heart in my hands
Now I’m starting to see
Maybe it’s got nothing to do with me
Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will live like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too”